MMM One Week Away
It’s been 20 years since I attended the first Million Man March and a lot has transpired in my life since. I’m been working to elevate the […]
A Great Fatherhood Resource for Dads and Families
We study dysfunction relentlessly. Conflict, absence, depression, arrears, poverty, trauma, violence, and disengagement all deserve our attention. But perhaps we should become equally curious about joy. What makes fathers feel alive?
Maybe flourishing should become something we measure. Maybe gratitude belongs in fatherhood programming. Maybe hope belongs in co-parenting education. Maybe one of the first questions we ask a father when he enters the room shouldn’t only be, “What problem brought you here?” Perhaps we should also ask him what is going right, what gave him joy this week, what his child did that made him smile. These questions won’t erase poverty, fix a court order, or eliminate conflict, but they do something just as necessary. They remind a man that his life is larger than the problem currently occupying it.
Mothers and grandmothers often carry a great deal of responsibility within families. They may step in to protect children, solve problems, provide stability, and make sure nothing is overlooked. Their involvement is usually rooted in love and concern. However, even well-intentioned support can become interference when it doesn’t leave room for a father to develop his own parenting identity.
Our first “& Co” participant began to recognize the ways she had inadvertently blocked her son from becoming the best father he could be.
The NBA called 30 names in the first round. Yet before Commissioner Silver called any of them, fathers had been calling those young men capable. They’d called them disciplined. They’d called them back to the gym. They’d called them higher than their doubts. They’d called them toward futures that existed first in the imagination of someone who loved them.
The 2026 NBA Draft didn’t suddenly create positive images of Black fatherhood. Those fathers had been there all along, making sacrifices beyond the camera’s reach.
And for one night, the frame finally became wide enough for America to see them.
Marriage and fatherhood can’t be treated as competing conversations. Marriage asks how men and women build a stable union. Responsible fatherhood asks how men remain accountable, nurturing, protective, emotionally present, and economically responsible toward their children.
When these commitments exist inside a healthy marriage, they reinforce one another. A man isn’t simply living with the mother of his children. He has made a public covenant to share the labor, sacrifice, responsibility, and future of family life.
It’s been 20 years since I attended the first Million Man March and a lot has transpired in my life since. I’m been working to elevate the […]