Tag: family
5 Ways Co-Parents Can Build Hope in Their Children
Some of us were raised to keep family business in the house. Some were taught to pray about it and keep going. And sometimes, when a child is talking about being depressed, overwhelmed, or not wanting to be here, we think they’re being dramatic or looking for attention.
But silence isn’t safety. Our children need to know they can tell us the truth. Even the hard truth. Even the uncomfortable truth. Even the truth that scares us. Our children need to know there’s nothing they can say that will make us stop loving them, listening to them, or helping them.
Healthy co-parenting is crucial to instilling this comfort and confidence.
What Does Cohabitation Data Tell Us About Fathers and the Success Sequence?
The Success Sequence largely focuses on milestones — education, work, marriage, and children. But families live in the gray areas around those milestones. Dating becomes cohabitation. Cohabitation becomes marriage. Cohabitation sometimes becomes parenthood before marriage. Sometimes cohabitation ends. Sometimes marriage ends. Sometimes two people stop being romantic partners but remain parents for the rest of their lives. Sometimes another partner enters the family system.
The work of fatherhood often happens inside those transitions.
Is Forgiveness in Fatherhood and Family Dead?
We’re living through a time when public life seems increasingly organized around accusation. We attack, cancel, blame, expose, and condemn. Loyalty has become conditional, disagreement is often treated as betrayal, and people are sometimes reduced to the worst thing they’ve ever said or done.
That spirit doesn’t remain confined to politics or social media. It follows us home. And family has always been one of the hardest places to practice forgiveness.
The Success Pathway: A Model for Moving Forward From Wherever You Are
The Success Sequence and this alternative — the Success Pathway — don’t have to compete. One can focus on prevention. The other can focus on progression.
For a 16-year-old, we can say, “Think carefully about education, employment, relationships, and when you become a parent. These decisions matter.” And for a 36-year-old father whose life did not unfold in that order, we can say, “Your decisions still matter.”
That may be one of the most important messages family-strengthening programs can offer. Your life isn’t over because the sequence wasn’t followed.
Why the Marriage Question Is Also a Fatherhood Question
Marriage and fatherhood can’t be treated as competing conversations. Marriage asks how men and women build a stable union. Responsible fatherhood asks how men remain accountable, nurturing, protective, emotionally present, and economically responsible toward their children.
When these commitments exist inside a healthy marriage, they reinforce one another. A man isn’t simply living with the mother of his children. He has made a public covenant to share the labor, sacrifice, responsibility, and future of family life.
Family Synergy Begins When Fathers Stop Being Treated as Optional
We regularly use the language of family while designing research, programs, clinics, schools, and policies exclusively around the mother-child relationship. The father is then added as an outreach strategy, a special population, or optional participant. We invite him into a structure that was never designed with him in mind. Then, when he doesn’t immediately feel that he belongs, we describe him as difficult to engage.
The work ahead isn’t simply to place more fathers inside existing family programs. It’s to reconsider the architecture of those programs.
In Search of James Evans
John Amos, the actor who gave James Evans his force and dignity, objected to the direction of Good Times. He believed the show’s increasing emphasis on J.J. Evans and buffoonish comedy was reducing a complicated Black family to a collection of familiar stereotypes.
The Fatherhood Dividend: What Happens When Fathers Are Included
When fathers are included, children gain. When children gain, families strengthen. When families strengthen, communities rise.
That’s the “fatherhood dividend” America can no longer afford to overlook.
It’s the measurable, human return that comes when fathers are recognized not as secondary parents but as essential contributors to child development, family stability, and community well-being.
Paid Leave for Fathers Isn’t a Perk. It’s a Parenting Policy.
We must stop treating fathers as optional in the early life of a child.
The first weeks after birth aren’t simply logistical. They are emotional, relational, and developmental. Mothers are healing. Babies are adjusting. Families are forming new rhythms. Parents are learning each other in real time.
In those moments, a father’s presence can reduce stress, support maternal recovery, strengthen co-parenting, and establish early patterns of caregiving that can last well beyond infancy.
We Declare June National Fatherhood Month
It is about the father who is living in the home and the father who is fighting to stay connected from outside the home. It is about the father who has custody and the father who is trying to understand his rights. It is about the father who is married, unmarried, divorced, separated, widowed, young, aging, healing, returning home, starting over, or finally finding his voice. It is about the father who is celebrated and the father who has never heard anyone say, “We see you.”
New York Is Building More Than a Fatherhood Committee
Success is not just more fatherhood programs. Success is creating conditions where fathers, families, children, and communities thrive.
A Father-Inclusive Reading of Family Stability Data
Fatherhood isn’t a sentimental add-on to family policy. It’s part of the structure.
For too long, America has built family policy around the most visible household and not enough around the full parenting ecosystem, which includes fathers. The data already knows this. Our policy language needs to catch up.
If we only know how to talk about fathers when they are missing, owing, incarcerated, estranged, or in conflict, then we have built a field of vision that is too narrow to see the truth.
The next step is not just better counting. It’s better seeing. Because once we see fathers clearly in the data, we can no longer justify leaving them out of the solution.
Fatherhood Is a Protective Factor, But Only When Safety Leads
Children have to be the anchor. Not adult pride. Not program numbers. Not public relations. Not whether dad feels validated or mom feels vindicated. The child’s well-being is the outcome. If the child is not safe, a healthy family cannot exist. But when the child is safe and there is a father who can be engaged responsibly, supported properly, and held accountable consistently, then fatherhood can become one of the strongest protective factors in that child’s life.
The Only Magic in This Atlanta Hawks–Magic City Collaboration Is the Disappearance of Morality
From a programmatic perspective at Fathers Incorporated, we spend our days encouraging fathers to model respect for women, to support mothers, and to raise children who understand the value of dignity and healthy relationships.
This partnership pushes against that work, and the contradiction deserves to be named.
The MVP Father-Son Moment That Outshined the Halftime Show at Super Bowl LX
A halftime show cannot heal what our culture keeps reopening. It can’t carry the weight of every taste, every tribe, every wound, every algorithm, or every complaint that has been waiting all year for this public stage. We are asking art to do what relationships require time to do.