Tag: family
Why the Marriage Question Is Also a Fatherhood Question
Marriage and fatherhood can’t be treated as competing conversations. Marriage asks how men and women build a stable union. Responsible fatherhood asks how men remain accountable, nurturing, protective, emotionally present, and economically responsible toward their children.
When these commitments exist inside a healthy marriage, they reinforce one another. A man isn’t simply living with the mother of his children. He has made a public covenant to share the labor, sacrifice, responsibility, and future of family life.
Family Synergy Begins When Fathers Stop Being Treated as Optional
We regularly use the language of family while designing research, programs, clinics, schools, and policies exclusively around the mother-child relationship. The father is then added as an outreach strategy, a special population, or optional participant. We invite him into a structure that was never designed with him in mind. Then, when he doesn’t immediately feel that he belongs, we describe him as difficult to engage.
The work ahead isn’t simply to place more fathers inside existing family programs. It’s to reconsider the architecture of those programs.
In Search of James Evans
John Amos, the actor who gave James Evans his force and dignity, objected to the direction of Good Times. He believed the show’s increasing emphasis on J.J. Evans and buffoonish comedy was reducing a complicated Black family to a collection of familiar stereotypes.
The Fatherhood Dividend: What Happens When Fathers Are Included
When fathers are included, children gain. When children gain, families strengthen. When families strengthen, communities rise.
That’s the “fatherhood dividend” America can no longer afford to overlook.
It’s the measurable, human return that comes when fathers are recognized not as secondary parents but as essential contributors to child development, family stability, and community well-being.
Paid Leave for Fathers Isn’t a Perk. It’s a Parenting Policy.
We must stop treating fathers as optional in the early life of a child.
The first weeks after birth aren’t simply logistical. They are emotional, relational, and developmental. Mothers are healing. Babies are adjusting. Families are forming new rhythms. Parents are learning each other in real time.
In those moments, a father’s presence can reduce stress, support maternal recovery, strengthen co-parenting, and establish early patterns of caregiving that can last well beyond infancy.
We Declare June National Fatherhood Month
It is about the father who is living in the home and the father who is fighting to stay connected from outside the home. It is about the father who has custody and the father who is trying to understand his rights. It is about the father who is married, unmarried, divorced, separated, widowed, young, aging, healing, returning home, starting over, or finally finding his voice. It is about the father who is celebrated and the father who has never heard anyone say, “We see you.”
New York Is Building More Than a Fatherhood Committee
Success is not just more fatherhood programs. Success is creating conditions where fathers, families, children, and communities thrive.
A Father-Inclusive Reading of Family Stability Data
Fatherhood isn’t a sentimental add-on to family policy. It’s part of the structure.
For too long, America has built family policy around the most visible household and not enough around the full parenting ecosystem, which includes fathers. The data already knows this. Our policy language needs to catch up.
If we only know how to talk about fathers when they are missing, owing, incarcerated, estranged, or in conflict, then we have built a field of vision that is too narrow to see the truth.
The next step is not just better counting. It’s better seeing. Because once we see fathers clearly in the data, we can no longer justify leaving them out of the solution.
Fatherhood Is a Protective Factor, But Only When Safety Leads
Children have to be the anchor. Not adult pride. Not program numbers. Not public relations. Not whether dad feels validated or mom feels vindicated. The child’s well-being is the outcome. If the child is not safe, a healthy family cannot exist. But when the child is safe and there is a father who can be engaged responsibly, supported properly, and held accountable consistently, then fatherhood can become one of the strongest protective factors in that child’s life.
The Only Magic in This Atlanta Hawks–Magic City Collaboration Is the Disappearance of Morality
From a programmatic perspective at Fathers Incorporated, we spend our days encouraging fathers to model respect for women, to support mothers, and to raise children who understand the value of dignity and healthy relationships.
This partnership pushes against that work, and the contradiction deserves to be named.
The MVP Father-Son Moment That Outshined the Halftime Show at Super Bowl LX
A halftime show cannot heal what our culture keeps reopening. It can’t carry the weight of every taste, every tribe, every wound, every algorithm, or every complaint that has been waiting all year for this public stage. We are asking art to do what relationships require time to do.
Our Stories, Our Strength: Honoring Family Narratives
Inspired by Family Stories Month, I’ll start where I am. I’ll tell my children what I know, what I’ve learned, and what I still hope to understand. I will remember the past and author the present — not just by celebrating what we’ve inherited, but by creating what we want to leave behind.
Our stories are our strength. Our storytelling is our legacy. And our legacy begins today.
Traditional and Cultural Adoptions: Critical Differences — and the Need for Both
Adoption, in its truest sense, has never been about legality alone. In many communities, it has always been about love, obligation, and survival. Long before there were state agencies or social service departments, there was a cultural system — neighbors taking in children after tragedy, grandparents raising grandchildren, aunts and uncles becoming stand-in parents when life took unexpected turns.
To truly understand adoption in America, and to strengthen the systems that govern it, we must hold space for both traditional and cultural adoption.
The Oneness of Co-Parenting
Here’s the truth I want every father and mother to hear: Your child doesn’t care about who was right. They don’t measure your love by how much you win the argument but by how well you work together for their well-being. They remember the tone of your voice when you speak about their other parent. They remember if they felt safe enough to love you both without guilt.
The oneness of co-parenting asks us to evolve — to put aside the “me” and embrace the “we.” It’s an act of maturity, faith, and courage. It requires both parents to look beyond themselves and see the divine assignment they share. You are co-creators of a life. And that life deserves wholeness, not division.
National Forgiveness Day: A Father Reflects on Healing, Redemption, and Second Chances
Forgiveness doesn’t erase pain; it transforms it. For fathers, it is not just a personal act. Forgiveness teaches our children that mistakes are not the end of love and that relationships are not defined by their worst moments, but by the courage to move beyond them.