Category: Fatherhood
The Walk Is Only the Beginning: Why the 2026 Million Fathers March Matters
The 2026 Million Fathers March isn’t asking fathers merely to appear for a single event. It’s asking schools and communities to open doors, and it’s asking fathers to keep walking through them.
Forty-two hosts have already registered. Fifteen states and 34 cities are already represented. Thousands of fathers and father figures are projected to participate, and there is still room for hundreds of schools, organizations, districts, churches, community groups, and families to become part of what September 18 can represent.
Is Forgiveness in Fatherhood and Family Dead?
We’re living through a time when public life seems increasingly organized around accusation. We attack, cancel, blame, expose, and condemn. Loyalty has become conditional, disagreement is often treated as betrayal, and people are sometimes reduced to the worst thing they’ve ever said or done.
That spirit doesn’t remain confined to politics or social media. It follows us home. And family has always been one of the hardest places to practice forgiveness.
The Success Pathway: A Model for Moving Forward From Wherever You Are
The Success Sequence and this alternative — the Success Pathway — don’t have to compete. One can focus on prevention. The other can focus on progression.
For a 16-year-old, we can say, “Think carefully about education, employment, relationships, and when you become a parent. These decisions matter.” And for a 36-year-old father whose life did not unfold in that order, we can say, “Your decisions still matter.”
That may be one of the most important messages family-strengthening programs can offer. Your life isn’t over because the sequence wasn’t followed.
Where Does the Success Sequence Leave Everyone Else?
The traditional Success Sequence is largely prospective. It tells someone standing at the beginning of adulthood: Here are decisions that may increase your likelihood of economic stability.
Fatherhood and family-strengthening work is often responsive. We meet people after some of those decisions have already been made. The question is no longer simply: “What sequence should you follow?” It becomes: “Given where you are today, what decisions can move you toward greater stability tomorrow?”
Success can’t simply be a reward for people who made every decision in the right order. It must also be something people can move toward from wherever they are.
AI Can Write a Legal Motion, But Can’t Guarantee a Father Gets to See His Child
Today, a father with a smartphone can ask an AI system to explain a child support order, translate legal language into plain English, organize a timeline, identify questions to ask an attorney, or produce something that looks remarkably like a legal motion. What once required hours of research, a knowledgeable advocate, or hundreds or thousands of dollars in legal assistance can sometimes appear on a screen in seconds.
That can sound like access to justice, but a fascinating new paper suggests we should be more careful about what we call access.
Passion Isn’t a Business Plan: What 36 Years in Nonprofits Taught Me About Serving
Over the years, Fathers Incorporated has operated through economic downturns, COVID-19, changing administrations, shifting federal priorities, fleeting philanthropic interests, the loss of key personnel, new technology, and evolving public conversations about fathers, families, race, gender, marriage, parenting, and social policy.
Our survival has never meant that we predicted every disruption. It meant that we built enough organizational muscle to adapt when disruption came.
That’s business. And business, in this context, isn’t a dirty word.
Maybe Fatherhood Should Feel Good, Too
We study dysfunction relentlessly. Conflict, absence, depression, arrears, poverty, trauma, violence, and disengagement all deserve our attention. But perhaps we should become equally curious about joy. What makes fathers feel alive?
Maybe flourishing should become something we measure. Maybe gratitude belongs in fatherhood programming. Maybe hope belongs in co-parenting education. Maybe one of the first questions we ask a father when he enters the room shouldn’t only be, “What problem brought you here?” Perhaps we should also ask him what is going right, what gave him joy this week, what his child did that made him smile. These questions won’t erase poverty, fix a court order, or eliminate conflict, but they do something just as necessary. They remind a man that his life is larger than the problem currently occupying it.
When Supporting a Father Means Making Room for Him to Lead
Mothers and grandmothers often carry a great deal of responsibility within families. They may step in to protect children, solve problems, provide stability, and make sure nothing is overlooked. Their involvement is usually rooted in love and concern. However, even well-intentioned support can become interference when it doesn’t leave room for a father to develop his own parenting identity.
Our first “& Co” participant began to recognize the ways she had inadvertently blocked her son from becoming the best father he could be.
Before Their Names Were Called, Their Fathers Had Already Shown Up
The NBA called 30 names in the first round. Yet before Commissioner Silver called any of them, fathers had been calling those young men capable. They’d called them disciplined. They’d called them back to the gym. They’d called them higher than their doubts. They’d called them toward futures that existed first in the imagination of someone who loved them.
The 2026 NBA Draft didn’t suddenly create positive images of Black fatherhood. Those fathers had been there all along, making sacrifices beyond the camera’s reach.
And for one night, the frame finally became wide enough for America to see them.
Why the Marriage Question Is Also a Fatherhood Question
Marriage and fatherhood can’t be treated as competing conversations. Marriage asks how men and women build a stable union. Responsible fatherhood asks how men remain accountable, nurturing, protective, emotionally present, and economically responsible toward their children.
When these commitments exist inside a healthy marriage, they reinforce one another. A man isn’t simply living with the mother of his children. He has made a public covenant to share the labor, sacrifice, responsibility, and future of family life.
Fatherhood Advocacy Isn’t About Winning Against Mothers. It’s About Refusing to Lose Children.
The future of the fatherhood movement must be disciplined, compassionate, research-informed, and child-centered. It must be brave enough to challenge courts, child support systems, child welfare agencies, legislatures, and even fatherhood programs themselves.
The measure of our fatherhood advocacy won’t be how loudly we defend fatherhood, but how effectively we build systems in which children no longer have to lose a parent for adults to feel that justice has been served.
The Moments Matter: When Co-Parenting Teamwork Makes the Dream Work
The inaugural Dad & Company class helped us move this idea from paper into practice, and participants came even before we had outcomes to show them. They trusted a vision while we were still learning how to fully explain it. That’s why I told them they weren’t simply the first graduates. They were the first standard.
History remembers firsts because firsts become reference points. They establish direction. They create tradition. They shape identity. Being first, however, isn’t only an honor. It’s a responsibility.
Family Synergy Begins When Fathers Stop Being Treated as Optional
We regularly use the language of family while designing research, programs, clinics, schools, and policies exclusively around the mother-child relationship. The father is then added as an outreach strategy, a special population, or optional participant. We invite him into a structure that was never designed with him in mind. Then, when he doesn’t immediately feel that he belongs, we describe him as difficult to engage.
The work ahead isn’t simply to place more fathers inside existing family programs. It’s to reconsider the architecture of those programs.
Children Don’t Need Perfect Fathers. They Need Present Ones.
Making a difference to children must also mean making a difference to the fathers who love them. When we support fathers, we support children. When we help fathers navigate child support, employment, legitimation, parenting time, conflict, mental health, and co-parenting, we’re not simply serving men. We’re strengthening the circle around the child. We’re making it more possible for a child to be loved, guided, protected, and known by both parents.
In Search of James Evans
John Amos, the actor who gave James Evans his force and dignity, objected to the direction of Good Times. He believed the show’s increasing emphasis on J.J. Evans and buffoonish comedy was reducing a complicated Black family to a collection of familiar stereotypes.