By Kenneth Braswell, CEO, Fathers Incorporated

Thereโ€™s a moment in my recent conversation with Dr. Dominic Shattuck, a community psychologist and Johns Hopkins scholar, that I canโ€™t shake. As we talked for an episode of my I Am Dad Podcast, he told me about his daughter, who had been bitten by a baby copperhead in their backyard one quiet evening. He described the fear, the rush to the hospital, and the relief that followed when she was okay.ย 

Somewhere in that story, I heard something deeper than just a fatherโ€™s instinct. What I heard was availability โ€” the kind of presence and consistency thatโ€™s there when life gets unpredictable, when love and protection are one act. 

It reminded me of a quote from Coach Herm Edwards: โ€œThe best ability is availability.โ€ That line has always resonated with me, especially in the work we do at Fathers Incorporated (FI). When we talk about what it means to be a man, husband, or father, we often rush to words like โ€œprovider,โ€ โ€œprotector,โ€ or โ€œleader,โ€ but none of that matters if we arenโ€™t available.

Availability is the soul of fatherhood. Itโ€™s what our children feel when they call out โ€œDaddy!โ€ in the middle of the night, and someone actually answers. Itโ€™s what our partners sense when we choose to be present, even when weโ€™re not perfect.

Dr. Shattuck and I found common ground in that space โ€” the intersection between how men see themselves and how the world has taught them to show up. He spoke about growing up without his biological father and how that absence shaped both his empathy and his mission. โ€œIโ€™m not burdened by a father,โ€ he said. โ€œIโ€™ve seen what care looks like from others (coaches, mentors, uncles), and thatโ€™s why I do this work.โ€

His research exposes a truth many of us in this field have known intuitively: Menโ€™s health is not just a medical issue; itโ€™s a relational one. The way we define masculinity determines how we treat ourselves, how long we live, and how well we love.

Men continue to die younger than women, avoid doctor visits, and ignore early signs that somethingโ€™s wrong. Itโ€™s not because they donโ€™t care about their health but because masculinity has taught them to endure pain instead of address it.

In our conversation, Dr. Shattuck pointed out how public health systems unintentionally reinforce that neglect. Womenโ€™s reproductive health draws them into consistent medical care (annual visits, screenings, and other check-ins), but men have no such entry point. There is no โ€œroutine momentโ€ in a manโ€™s life that brings him back to the doctor. By the time most men seek care, itโ€™s reactive, not preventive.

That truth hit me personally. Not long ago, I found myself sitting in a dentistโ€™s chair, face swollen from an infection I didnโ€™t see coming. Years of neglect caught up with me in a single day. The nurse told me, โ€œYouโ€™re in this pain because you couldnโ€™t find seven minutes a day to take care of yourself.โ€

Seven minutes. Thatโ€™s all it takes to preserve what you could lose forever.

That moment sent me on a self-care journey. Like many men, I didnโ€™t start it until my body forced me to. And in that process, I realized something that fathers everywhere need to hear: Taking care of yourself is an act of love for the people who depend on you.

I often tell dads, โ€œThe diaper you change today may one day be your own.โ€ Itโ€™s funny until itโ€™s not. Because when you neglect your health, habits, and mental space, youโ€™re not just shortening your own life โ€” youโ€™re shrinking the circle of love for those who depend on it.

Dr. Shattuckโ€™s work underscores that public health has a blind spot: men. Although men are not invisible, their pain often wears the mask of strength. Public health canโ€™t reach men if it continues to design systems that speak a language men have never been invited to learn.

This is where organizations like FI step in. For nearly two decades, weโ€™ve worked to reframe fatherhood not as a social category separate from public and community health but as its foundation. When fathers thrive, families thrive, and when families thrive, entire neighborhoods stabilize.

We canโ€™t separate menโ€™s health from fatherhood any more than we can separate a heartbeat from a body. The emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness of men is a public health issue. It influences how children are raised, how relationships survive, and how communities heal.

Dr. Shattuck reminded me that while the conversation around masculinity is evolving, itโ€™s not complete until public health sits at the table. The missing link isnโ€™t just better medicine but better connection. Men donโ€™t need judgment: They need invitations to care for themselves and permission to be vulnerable in the process.

The question now isnโ€™t whether we have the courage to address this problem. If we want stronger families, we must build systems that prioritize menโ€™s health. If we want healthier children, we must model for them what self-care looks like. And if we want a more compassionate culture, we must finally recognize that masculinity, fatherhood, and public health are not separate conversations but one and the same.

The truth is simple: A healthy man is a healthier father, and a healthier father builds a healthier world.


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Fathers Incorporated (FI) is a national, non-profit organization working to build stronger families and communities through the promotion of Responsible Fatherhood. Established in 2004, FI has a unique seat at the national table, working with leaders in the White House, Congress, U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, Family Law, and the Responsible Fatherhood Movement. FI works collaboratively with organizations around the country to identify and advocate for social and legislative changes that lead to healthy father involvement with children, regardless of the fatherโ€™s marital or economic status, or geographic location. From employment and incarceration issues, to child support and domestic violence, FI addresses long-standing problems to achieve long-term results for children, their families, the communities, and nation in which they live.

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