The Force Still Moves: One Year Without Lawrence Wilbon
Lawrence Wilbon reminded us that love is a verb. Faith, he’d say, was something you walked out with your boots on the ground. And from lifting fathers to strengthening families, from building systems to planting seeds, Lawrence gave everything he had, without asking anything in return.
A Dad’s First Big Assignment: Supporting Mom Through Pregnancy, Delivery, and Postpartum
When fathers learn, plan, advocate, and rest with intention, moms recover better, babies thrive, and the whole house breathes easier.
Show up. Ask questions. Carry the load you can carry. Guard the rest and watch the signs. Put the helplines in your phone. And remember, your baby doesn’t need a perfect dad — your baby needs you, present and prepared.
The Top Five Traits of Successful Co-Parenting Relationships
Co-parenting is one of the most significant tests of maturity, love, and patience that two adults can undertake. It requires shifting the focus from what ended between the parents to what must continue for the child.
Over time, through thousands of conversations with fathers and families, we’ve seen what works and what doesn’t. The five elements detailed here consistently stand out as markers of successful co-parenting relationships.
The Missing Conversation Between Masculinity, Fatherhood, and Public Health
For nearly two decades, we’ve worked to reframe fatherhood not as a social category separate from public and community health but as its foundation. When fathers thrive, families thrive, and when families thrive, entire neighborhoods stabilize.
We can’t separate men’s health from fatherhood any more than we can separate a heartbeat from a body. The emotional, physical, and spiritual wellness of men is a public health issue. It influences how children are raised, how relationships survive, and how communities heal.
A Responsible Fatherhood Field Response to the New Executive Order on Child Welfare
The “Fostering the Future for American Children and Families” Executive Order’s emphasis on improving data systems, accelerating permanency, and strengthening partnerships creates an opening to bring fathers and paternal kin out of the margins. This is strategic. When fathers are engaged early, when their families are considered as viable kinship placements, and when agencies have the training to do this well, children experience less trauma, fewer moves, and faster pathways to safety and permanency.
Our Stories, Our Strength: Honoring Family Narratives
Inspired by Family Stories Month, I’ll start where I am. I’ll tell my children what I know, what I’ve learned, and what I still hope to understand. I will remember the past and author the present — not just by celebrating what we’ve inherited, but by creating what we want to leave behind.
Our stories are our strength. Our storytelling is our legacy. And our legacy begins today.
Reclaiming the Narrative of Black Fatherhood
What we need now isn’t another study, stereotype, or headline. We need space for honest conversations across generations, households, and experiences. We need to celebrate the fathers doing the work and support the ones who are still fighting to get there.
We need to reclaim our narrative not as a rebuttal, but as a declaration. Black fatherhood has never needed saving. It has only needed witnessing.
Viral Cardi–Offset–Diggs Story Shines a Spotlight on Georgia’s Legitimation Law
Right now, millions of people are debating this on social media, learning the word “legitimation” in the same breath they’re laughing at Offset’s deleted “My kid lol” post. But there’s nothing funny about the weight this law carries for fathers who do not have a press team or a lawyer on speed dial.
The Cardi-Offset-Diggs uproar may fade from the timeline in a few days, but the lesson it exposes cannot. Georgia’s legitimation laws deserve scrutiny, public awareness, and modernization.
Taking Care of Your Mental Health: An Open Letter to Young Fathers
New fatherhood is a rollercoaster, and it’s okay if some days feel like you’re clenching the safety bar with both hands. Your mental health isn’t separate from this ride; it is the seatbelt that keeps you in the car.
If your mood feels stuck — anger that won’t cool down, sadness that won’t lift, anxiety that pins you to the mattress — talk to someone. Just as we practice for a trade or a sport, counseling helps us develop mental and emotional skills for partnerships, parenting, and work.
Traditional and Cultural Adoptions: Critical Differences — and the Need for Both
Adoption, in its truest sense, has never been about legality alone. In many communities, it has always been about love, obligation, and survival. Long before there were state agencies or social service departments, there was a cultural system — neighbors taking in children after tragedy, grandparents raising grandchildren, aunts and uncles becoming stand-in parents when life took unexpected turns.
To truly understand adoption in America, and to strengthen the systems that govern it, we must hold space for both traditional and cultural adoption.
The Oneness of Co-Parenting
Here’s the truth I want every father and mother to hear: Your child doesn’t care about who was right. They don’t measure your love by how much you win the argument but by how well you work together for their well-being. They remember the tone of your voice when you speak about their other parent. They remember if they felt safe enough to love you both without guilt.
The oneness of co-parenting asks us to evolve — to put aside the “me” and embrace the “we.” It’s an act of maturity, faith, and courage. It requires both parents to look beyond themselves and see the divine assignment they share. You are co-creators of a life. And that life deserves wholeness, not division.
When Winning Feels Like Losing: The Hidden Scoreboard of Fatherhood and the Battle for Connection
Parenthood, in general (and fatherhood, in particular), is often talked about in the language of winning and losing. We hear it in courtrooms: “I won custody.” We hear it in child support battles: “He lost his rights.” We even hear it in the tone of everyday conversations when someone asks, “What happened with your case?” and the answer comes back, “I won.”
But every time a parent “loses” in court, there is another loss that no one writes about — the child’s. The child loses the rhythm of consistent connection. They lose the security of shared presence. And they begin to internalize the idea that love and belonging are things people have to compete for.
Walking in Dads’ Shoes: How Journey Mapping Helps Programs Truly Serve Fathers
In plain terms, the “Adapting to Fathers’ Needs: Creating Change Using Insights from Customer Journey Mapping” brief asks programs to walk through each step as a dad experiences it. It invites fatherhood program teams to review every touchpoint — from outreach to intake to workshops to follow-up — and name what feels welcoming, what trips fathers up, and what would keep them coming back. The brief translates empathy into operations, and it works.
When the System Shuts Down, Hunger Doesn’t Pause
If the shutdown continues, SNAP benefits – the the very foundation of food security for millions of families across the country – may not be available as of November 1. For many, that means facing an impossible question: How do I feed my children without help?
Parenting Is a Team Sport: Why Fathers Incorporated Is Strengthening the Co-Parenting Circle
As we’ve evolved in fatherhood work — listening to the voices of fathers, mothers, partners, and families — we’ve learned that supporting dads alone is only part of the equation.
The next chapter of our journey demands that we strengthen the team surrounding the father, as well. That’s why we are introducing Dad & Company: Building an Effective Co-Parenting Team — a new initiative grounded in the principles of responsible fatherhood but expanded to include everyone who plays a role in raising healthy, resilient children.